For married couples with children, the transition to an empty nest is a known challenge. Let’s face it: after investing what feels like a lifetime into raising and launching your little humans into the world, it’s natural to feel a bit deflated. Some couples may even experience a significant downturn marked by sadness, loss, and even identity crises. If this sounds like you, now is the time to reinvest in your spouse and reconnect as a couple. Put in the effort so it’s not the end of your love story—but the beginning of the next chapter. Here are some tips:
- Rediscover the hobbies/passions you had when you were dating: Reminisce about what you loved to do. Dust off the long-forgotten hobbies and passions you enjoyed when you were young and carefree. Whether it was clubbing, playing tennis, or jet-setting around the globe, reignite the spark that made you fall in love in the first place.
- Try something new: Learning a new hobby or skill can be a great way to reconnect. This creates a level playing field where you’re both beginners at something new. It’s a great way to flex your brain and rebuild your relationship. Consider taking up language classes, dance lessons, or exploring a new sport together. Big Retired Life has outlined over 14 activities in our “Active You” section. Give one a try.
- Consider parallel play: Remember when your children were toddlers and would play together but not necessarily doing the same thing? Embrace the art of doing your own thing together. Find ways to indulge your individual interests while still spending quality time together. For example, if you’re a ski enthusiast and your partner loves mountain views, invest in a cozy ski chalet where you can enjoy both pursuits. It’s the ultimate choose-your-own-adventure.
- Create new routines: Devote a specific evening each week to a “date night” and share the responsibility of organizing the locations and activities of each date. Or create consistent opportunities for leisurely walks together. Or integrate shared rituals like daily morning coffee or nightly dinners into your day. Bonus points for walking after dinner as that has shown a myriad of health benefits. The possibilities are endless.
With your children out of the house, take the time to find the activities that bring you and your spouse closer. Don’t let being an empty nester bring you down. Embrace being a free bird. With decades of love, laughter, and adventure awaiting, the best is yet to come!
Throughout the “Sandwich Years” section of this blog, we will provide you support for launching children into adulthood while caring for aging parents.